How do I get ped the pain of an affair, how long will it take.?

It can actually take several years of HER proving herself to you. I'm sure you're doing everything you can to make her happy and she is such a lucky lady to have a man like you. However, this hurt you more than it hurt her, so take your time and reure yourself. You're a great guy. Hopefully, she will prove that she is worthy of you.