My husband and our lack of life?..How do i get him to be more open in talking about this?

I'm on my hubbys account right now, not sure why, just too lazy to go onto my own, but anyway.... I have the same problem, I'm always starting it, he goes along with it. I finally got fed up with it, tried to not jump him, never works. So instead of admitting I have no self control where with my spouse is concerned, I started teasing him like crazy, and then stopping. He went crazy for awhile, getting teased daily, and on the 3rd day nearly attacked me lol. A little play and teasing might work. Try giving him a little oral, or touching him there. Get him semi close, basically just into enjoying it, then stop. Don't go any farther then that. If he then tries to get ahold of you, get up. Take a shower, take care of yourself to make sure you don't go jump him, something. Then hopfully next time the time comes, he's the one holding you down.